Dieting

For everyone that has been on a diet, is currently on a diet, about to go on a diet and have totally given up on diets. Also for those who are rolling their eyes because I am on a diet. I know who you are and you know who you are....hahahaha..

Going on a diet is not a bad thing. Some people think of it as a bad word like it's vulgar or something. Before you judge and form preconceived notions of why you think I am on a diet let me tell you why.

It's about economics. I am not about to go out and buy new clothes just because my pants are really tight at the moment. I just have to stop eating more than I need too. It saves me money on a new wardrobe and grocery. Brilliant.

It takes self discipline and courage to admit that I have to do something about my eating habits rather than let it control and rule my life. I make lifestyle changes to the time I eat, what I eat and how much I eat. Being hungry for hours and not stuffing my face takes lots of discipline. You see humans only need about 1500 calories a day and 3 meals a day. So don't worry I am not about kill myself or develop an eating disorder.

For vanity, I do it for vanity. I am not going to be all self righteous and say that I am not vain. I am very vain. A decade ago a very wise man, whom I eventually married taught me that....."you have to look good to feel good" sometimes in life you have to start somewhere. If feeling good about yourself means you have to look good so be it.

Staying in control. Like everything else in my life from the colour of my eye shadow to the type of coffee I like. It's a choice I make to stay at a certain weight. Not everyone is going to agree, and I fully understand and respect that everyone is different. So the same rule applies here, if you are happy with the way you look and weigh. Let me decide for myself how heavy I should weigh and feel. What's most important is that you are comfortable and happy in your body. Big, medium or small.

^_^ I am happiest at my lightest. Blame it on the media, fashion industry, men, society I don't really care.

Your Dream life

Having the life you want is not impossible. It's very much like building a house lots of time, effort, cement and knowing what you want. Most happy people did not get to where they are by luck. It's was a journey of careful planning, taking calculated risk, learning from mistakes and some brain.

When you look for that dream house you start by looking for a suitable location very much like how you search for that special someone to spent the rest of your life with. You have some idea what you want but you never really know until see it/him/her.

After you found something suitable you lay the foundations and make sure they are strong and steady as a rock or your house will come tumbling down. You make sure that you have common values with regards to children and their up bringing, similar family values even religious and financial goals. A failure to come to terms with core values is like building a house with only 80% of the foundation in place. Not doomed for complete failure but lots of work, effort and time will be required to patch falling pieces along the way.

Once you get that house up you fill it up with things that you love and make it a home. Very much like the rest of your life, you fill it up with people you care about, people that are positive and of good character. But you also learn to let go and eradicate people that are bad for you no matter how painful. You will find if you surround yourself with people and things that you love. You will in return feel loved.

Fundamentally it's all about knowing what you want and not settling for anything less. If you haven't figured out what you want in life maybe it's time you started thinking about what will make you jump out of bed with a smile on face so that everyday will be the best day of your life. You create it one small step at a time, it may take years and sometimes you fall or take a few steps back. But you keep looking forward and you do whatever it takes to build that life that you envision in your mind. You remove obstacles, by pass them or take a detour but you never never look back.

Finally, you do it alone if you have to, you are the sole driving force to creating that life. There is no perfect life there will still be ups and downs, trials and tribulations. But you deal with it one at time and move on, staying focused on your final destination.

It may seem a little over simplified but it's not about money or having the best job or living in the best district. It's about being true to yourself and knowing that you have taken every EFFORT to make your life worth living.

People will beat you down, creeps will come into your life and suck you dry. Toilets will leak, cars will break down and children will fall sick. You cannot control what happens neither can you change the world or your neighbour but you can choose how you react to them and you can choose what you want to do about it. Remember that when you are in control of yourself, you will be in control of your life. Suddenly the world seems a better place.

This was written for a dear friend that is feeling rather down at the moment. Hope this helps you out of your darkness.

Time to move on

It's time to move on again. This is the 5th time I am moving in the last 8 years. This time we are saying good bye to Seletar Springs, the place where my 2nd child, Danica, was born. This place will forever have a special place in my heart. It's like a breaking up with someone and never getting over it but you still some how manage to move on in life.

I love this place. I can't explain it but there is something about it that draws you and captivates you. We are off to Sunrise Close just 3 traffic lights or 3.2km away from Gerald Drive where we are currently at. I hope that as we move on to a bigger home, we will create new memories and I will find another special place in my heart for it. We start renovations and packing in the next couple of weeks, I pray that all goes smoothly and the children settle in nicely. It's not a nice feeling when it's bedtime and you are left wondering, why are we not home yet mummy?

On a lighter note, I hope I don't have another child in the process of moving this time round. Wahahahahahhaa...the last 2 times I shifted I was pregnant! Sigh! Talk about bad timing, both of my children were conceived just after we signed the paper work to buy the last 2 properties. I tell you having morning sickness and vomiting all day long but still had to pack and look after another child, not to mention deal with contractors that gave me contraction on a daily basis was no joking matter. Thank goodness so far so good, we get our keys in 2 weeks and I am NOT pregnant at the moment.

Goodbye, Seletar Springs, one day when the time is right, I will return to this great great place I once called home.

Happiness and Me

If happiness is something that someone gives you, it also means that happiness can be taken away from you. However if happiness is something you give yourself, you will be a happy person. Off course I am not saying that you will never feel other emotions like anger and sadness. But rather you will be able to walk with a bounce in your gait and wake up feeling life is great.

Happiness starts from being happy about smallest things in life. Sounds too simple.

Happiness is a state of mind that reflects your perspective on life. It is not to be confused with the feeling you get when you purchase something and the sudden rush of endorphin that surges through your brain which is mostly temporal.

I have decided that I will be a happy person and I give thanks for everything that I have. But the key for me to happiness is the removal of resentment. Resentment can eat you alive. It can destroy you.

It took me 36 years to realise that I if I resent others for my situation in life, I will forever be miserable.

Happiness to me is the knowing that I have someone to count on and rely on what I am feeling down. I do not dwell on our differences and I look forward to making up after a fight. But the most amazing thing is I don't expect him to change one bit not for me not for anyone else.

Happiness to me is having great friends to share special moments, I celebrate our diverse personalities and accept them with all their idiosyncrasies and respect their way of life.

Happiness is waking up and knowing that my children loves me and needs me, yet I also look forward to the day where they are independent and ready to take flight.

Happiness is looking forward into the future even though I have no idea what it brings, embracing it one day at a time. Good or bad I know I will learn something from it.

Happiness is being at peace with myself and accepting me for who I am, knowing my limitations and recognising my flaws as a human being.

Happiness is knowing that I am responsible for my own Happiness and I have what it takes to sustain me when everything else fails.

Facebook Etiquette

I really need to get it off my chest....so here goes!

Oh for crying out loud, if you have nothing nice to say, don't say it. You don't have have to comment on every post that appears on your news feed. Most of the time people are not really interested in your opinion if it's not nice. So if you disagree with something you see, you should just move on to the next line. But if you really feel the need to say something because you are feeling offended by the content. Please try and say it in a politically correct manner that will not embarrass the writer, especially if the contend wasn't offensive to begin with but it just rubbed you the wrong way. Having said all these, yes you can joke and have fun because people are not stupid. They know when you are are just goofing around and won't take it to heart.

Please keep it short, you are not writing an essay. I've seen comments that are 4 paragraphs long. You know you've written too much when your comments have a little arrow that says "read more". It means your comment got truncated because it would take up too much space on the news feed.

Also you don't have to relate your life story and experiences to the world whenever you read something that is close to your heart. Most people don't give 2 horses arse what you did 5 years ago over and over and over again. Enough already with the "......it happened to me too and you know if you do this, this will happen and this was how i got over it and now i have no regrets cos i am glad that i did that blah blah blah.......on and on and on over and over over again." You relate it once great, but hello! 75 times over the last 12 months????

You have no moral authority over people so save the lectures and speeches. Unless you really mean well, off course you if really meant well you could privately send that person a message.

Somethings are best left unknown. Leave out details that will let the entire world you have no money, poor and cannot afford most things in life.....it's not something you should be bragging about or if you had a fight with your husband. Sigh!

OK off my chest....feeling better.

Have a great weekend. :-)

Becoming Me

As a teenager I was angry, rebellious and rather annoying. I gave my parents a hard time, teachers rolled their eyes when they saw me and my principal knew my first name and had my parents number on speed dial. I broke every single rule, defied every norm and experimented with everything. Testing boundaries and pushed every limit placed in front of me. Thank goodness I survived and made it into my twenties relatively unharmed. I picked up a few friends along the way that are still my best pals up till today. Rest of the people I met kind of just faded away and got left along the road side as I progressed on with life.

In my 20's I became a little needy and confused about myself. A chain of events left me feeling defeated and dejected with life and I started to wonder if life is just about a series of disappointments. I picked up a couple of great friends along way from the strangest places and till today they are still hanging around. But the low of my 20's made me strong and resilient. I figured out that that if something doesn't kill you, you are good to go again. At the same time I realised something far more important. You receive what you give. If you give out love, good will and effort, you will get in return more love, good will and people's effort. You also attract the nice people if you are nice and if you are just a mean motor mouth shooting off what is on your brain, you will in return attract mean people quick to judge and criticise.

Half way through my thirties. I am now certain who I am, where I am going and what is important to me. I have decided that I am no push over, floor mat and will not tolerate having people in my life that make my feel lousy about myself. It's takes courage to cut people out that you know are no good for you. I take no crap from no one and I also try to give no crap to anyone. If you surround yourself with people and things that you love, you'll find that life is indeed great. Many people live their life from day to day thinking, this is my life and there is nothing I can do about it. There is something you can do about it. One small step at a time. If you don't like the way you are being treated, walk away! You can't change the world and control what comes out of people's mouth but you can choose how you react to them. Instead of getting upset and all worked up you can remove yourself from the situation and subsequently remove them from your world. To all the great friends and people that I have met in my 30's I am truely blessed to have you in my life. As the saying goes what comes round goes round.

What lots of people fail to realise is that when you are happy and content with life, without having to put people down or turn green with envy because someone else has more in life materially, you too will become successful in all aspects of your life. It's an attitude towards life that will translate to everything you do.

Life is a journey and there are many paths and route to choose from, some take the short cut, others take the detour. At the end of the day we all arrive at the same final destination. So are you defined by the good that you have done at the end of your journey.

Disclaimer

I would like to state for the record that all the content in this blog are my personal opinion and points of view. So if you find the content distasteful or different from your point of view.

You can choose not to read it!

Better still go start your own blog!

I am not asking anyone to subscribe to my way of life or way of thinking.

So if you please could just keep your unkind comments to yourself.

Thanks.