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Wednesday, April 28, 2010

Becoming Me

As a teenager I was angry, rebellious and rather annoying. I gave my parents a hard time, teachers rolled their eyes when they saw me and my principal knew my first name and had my parents number on speed dial. I broke every single rule, defied every norm and experimented with everything. Testing boundaries and pushed every limit placed in front of me. Thank goodness I survived and made it into my twenties relatively unharmed. I picked up a few friends along the way that are still my best pals up till today. Rest of the people I met kind of just faded away and got left along the road side as I progressed on with life.

In my 20's I became a little needy and confused about myself. A chain of events left me feeling defeated and dejected with life and I started to wonder if life is just about a series of disappointments. I picked up a couple of great friends along way from the strangest places and till today they are still hanging around. But the low of my 20's made me strong and resilient. I figured out that that if something doesn't kill you, you are good to go again. At the same time I realised something far more important. You receive what you give. If you give out love, good will and effort, you will get in return more love, good will and people's effort. You also attract the nice people if you are nice and if you are just a mean motor mouth shooting off what is on your brain, you will in return attract mean people quick to judge and criticise.

Half way through my thirties. I am now certain who I am, where I am going and what is important to me. I have decided that I am no push over, floor mat and will not tolerate having people in my life that make my feel lousy about myself. It's takes courage to cut people out that you know are no good for you. I take no crap from no one and I also try to give no crap to anyone. If you surround yourself with people and things that you love, you'll find that life is indeed great. Many people live their life from day to day thinking, this is my life and there is nothing I can do about it. There is something you can do about it. One small step at a time. If you don't like the way you are being treated, walk away! You can't change the world and control what comes out of people's mouth but you can choose how you react to them. Instead of getting upset and all worked up you can remove yourself from the situation and subsequently remove them from your world. To all the great friends and people that I have met in my 30's I am truely blessed to have you in my life. As the saying goes what comes round goes round.

What lots of people fail to realise is that when you are happy and content with life, without having to put people down or turn green with envy because someone else has more in life materially, you too will become successful in all aspects of your life. It's an attitude towards life that will translate to everything you do.

Life is a journey and there are many paths and route to choose from, some take the short cut, others take the detour. At the end of the day we all arrive at the same final destination. So are you defined by the good that you have done at the end of your journey.

2 comments:

BlurLin said...

thank God you survive through... and Glad for you now... out of crisis.

I believe you have to be firm and believe in self before you can stand up again.

I have seen many people who cannot stand up after crisis and they live their life complaining, depressed and miserable.

Crazy Mum, You have made it... Thumbs up!!!
MeiLing

Crazy Mum aka Ivy Ong said...

thanx babes! are you the meiling that i know? hehehehe